Emotions enrich our life experience. Joy makes a day sunnier and sadness can bring depth to the warmth of connection. Emotions bring color to life in all its hues and shades.
As we navigate our lives as adults we begin to notice that we get emotionally triggered by certain people or situations. These emotions seem rote and frequently occur. So what’s the difference between emotions evoked from within as an experience rather than a reaction?
The simple answer is history, and this is why therapeutic treatment often delves into your past. However, chasing down why, for example, being in a crowd and feeling lonely could be related to your history can become a maze of confusion.
I would like to suggest that emotional reactions are literally healing gifts waiting for your unwrapping.
Often, we do not realize when we are in a reaction opposed to just experiencing emotion. Simply ask yourself when you are in the throes of an emotion, does this feel familiar in a way that creates judgement or control? Are the emotions you are experiencing adding to, negating or over emphasizing who You are? If your emotions are lingering for more than five minutes, it is likely you are in reaction and have actually discovered a treasure trove to be excavated.
Understanding how emotional reaction holds wisdom and healing requires presence. Becoming self aware and being willing to sit with the emotions that are triggered takes courage and stillness and the tools that will help us walk through these often, dark places are breath and guidance.
By Cynthia Kagoshima